My younger sister lives in Switzerland; a bit far for frequent visits! Over the years we had many phone conversations. Last year she finally agreed that we video Skype. What a wonderful surprise!
Just because kink is out of the closet doesn’t mean it’s understood or widely condoned. Changes in society morals take time. LGBT folks have been working on it since Stonewall and that‘s 44 years ago. Many kinksters still keep their fantasies hidden out of shame and fear of being judged.