Originally posted on Cléo Dubois in Kink with Heart:
At the beginning of every Intensive, we share what brought us to Kink. Many of my students have memories of early BDSM fantasies triggered by magazines or films, cherished during puberty, sometimes sooner. That was not my case. My fantasies were of romantic love, being swept away by my Prince Charmant.
And then one summer night in San Francisco in the early 80s, my perceptive vanilla lover suggested we attend Kat Sunlove’s groundbreaking talk on erotic dominance at the Gorilla Grotto. A bright kinky light bulb exploded in my mind!. Yes that is what I wanted: control, negotiated sexual explorations and big energies! Within a week, I joined The Society of Janus. My appetite for sensation, giving and receiving, was voracious. I really did not know why SM was so attractive; I just had to jump in.
Until then, my…
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